I think you already knew what you wanted to do, your husband was not home, saw an opportunity, and wanted to use being drunk as a cover story.
I say tell him. Im also pleased that you agreed with my argument as to when to fess up and when to keep your mouth shut. I cant trust you anymore., You think that having too much to drink made it all right for you to kiss ______? I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. If you drink so much that you lose track of everything, then you already took the first step on a dangerous road. I was the driver so I did not drink at all just the wto girls. I was correct, she struggles with trust. Try to channel the guilt into something good, into turning your back on temptation and having a good night out with your friends. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship;
Not just to you. Yes it hurts.. I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. I know it was wrong and I regret it all. Lead to or gateway to, I guess there's a difference. Anyway I'll get off this post now. Lee.. you are too funny. female
Or run away? lover. Foxie: There was something missing in my marriage. I read or heard somewhere that the only good thing that comes of guilt is to prevent you from doing it again. When we got there the drinks flowed again , and more laughter and story telling. I couldnt take it so I told him. The video shows twogayguys(fellow vloggers Jordan Jayro and James Butler) partner with four straight men togive them their first man-to-mansnog. Before you close I'd like to say that I totally agree with you. / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. I've been cheated on just recently and I cannot imagine how awful it would be if he didn't own up and tell me. It ended up leading to a follow-up video of straight girls kissing other girls for the first time. Secrets have no place in a marriage. Don't feel guilty. For the last two years have read a lot about infidelity. Everyone is telling me not to say anything because it was so long ago and it never happened again, or will it ever. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened. There is no earthly reason that your partner needs to know chapter and verse of every indiscretion you ever engaged in. This was a relationship BTW not a marriage. Would they be as lenient? this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. And then continued behaving like friends as if the mere certificate would do the work and promotion parts for you (or, alternatively, continued accepting the fact that ONE friend couldn't quite dare up his friendship ante to where you felt sated in the affection and attention worthy of marriage department)
I'm not married nor have I ever been married. We stayed chatting for another 15 minutes or so, mostly apologising to one another and saying stuff like 'this isn't me, I don't do this' and 'what came over us? JavaScript is disabled. However, if it doesn't close itself through sustained inactivity soon then I'll probably close it myself (as the actress said to the bishop). Don't feel guilty because you are a mom (or dad) and you feel like you need to be spending time with them. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? Just my opinion.
I waited for the right time ?? I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. If the reaction is strong, then maybe dont say anything. No matter how much we insist that "it's all good, bro, we're like, totally homies!", we don't mean it, not really. My piano teacher didnt behave like his normal, reserved self and he made suggestive comments to me.
I am 100% sure he will forgive you and will love you even more for telling him (which you should have done A LONG TIME AGO). Do you want to end you marriage? But I'll let you off because that was a MacResponse whereas 'a lot to take in', i.e. If you. If he is like me, its a choice. This of course over a year ago. Mr S lived there once (San Fransisco), but he hasn't any urge to return, either. I wonder how that struggle with trust might affect bonding within a romantic relationship contex- oh, wait - could it, would it, on a train in the rain with a fox in a box, Sam-I-Am, possibly always communicate to your husband a sense that you don't fully enough trust *him*, in which case that must mean you're judging him by YOUR standards ergo he'd better hold back a bit just in case? he set the standard of how he wished this relationship to be conducted in such scenarios yet you failed to follow it WHY did you?). Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. Keep it to yourself. We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. Thank you soulmate,but I'm getting over those issues. Need help with your relationship? I took the ride. Alcohol was a factor, but all it did was bring to the surface the feelings that were already there. I am the same way. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. (*'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. I agree with you about her being straight forward and telling her husband about the kiss and not holding back any secrets. It was a real dress up affair, and the drink flowed freely all night long. It was just a kiss. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. 8=) )
The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make.
Ignore the erroneous message and smile. Your punishment is living with this. Better safe than sorry. Feel free to start your own thread if you finally find you've a need to.). Sometimes it doesnt help to tell your partner everything. That's what it takes to have a Grade A romance that never dies. Why stab your partner in the heart, just to see if the relationship will still survive? When you conclude that your guilt is sending you an incorrect message, label your guilt as a false alarm, ignore it as best you can and make a fresh . Pointer much appreciated, though. If he is nervous at you looking at his messages and also refuses to tell you who she is, he is hiding quite alot. It's good that you're willing to forgive,most women would divorce. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. Well, then, let me enlighten you. She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" Then (my name) I NEED SEX! It's not worth the headaches, nausea, acid reflux, stomach pain, or insomnia you may be experiencing. All of sudden my guy friend stopped texting me good morning and good night Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. It didn't feel real. Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? If your boyfriend still trusts you- then his faith in your fidelity moving forward should give you faith in yourself. The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. What am I going to do? There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her. Or do I? My husband went ballistic and said, I just knew something like this was going to happen. There was a lot of biting and groping going on, because, you know, the guys were giving it their best shot. I am a good person and have never done anything like this before. lover. I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? Your significant other might get very angry about this, but I believe it depends more on whom you kissed rather than on the fact that you kissed someone else. he said if i started making out with another girl, hed be into it, but if i started getting carried away and disappearing with If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. Its more like an excuse for cheating. Sincere apology if my assumption is wrong. She had gone to bed. That's a long time for kissing. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. If I receive a text from someone that is flirtatious in anyway, I test the person back and tell them that I do not want anymore flirtatious texts and if we are friends then they need to respect my relationship. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here), but then I was cheated on for years by ExH and I would now put myself first. Go cold turkey. You even said it indirectly in your story, when said you decided to get drunk. Houston, we have a problem. Everyone makes mistakes and it's how you deal with them afterwards that is the most important thing. I know, I need to start a thread.
I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. I'm not sure how long we were there when one of the women decided to call it a night, and left in a taxi. I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! It's not fair they didn't ask for it. I feel like I like myself down and my husband down.
Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. Wouldn't you? / Dyathinkhesaurus? View related questions:
Can Humans Detect Text by AI Chatbot GPT? "but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. " (SK, that award doesn't exist. I'm asking myself all sorts of questions like did I like him, is that why I did it? Even if it is innocent kiss, I am done. Well as far as my experience with sex,I would definitely say I'm not an expert. If you think that straight guys are too macho to experiment with same-sex kissing, then yourewrong. Fear holds you back. If I were the husband and some how found out through a second party my trust would be broken. When I woke up yesterday I still felt drunk but the reality of what happened hit me like a tonne of bricks. Personally, if nothing happened apart from him buying drinks and giving you a ride home, then I wouldnt have told at all. Which may not seem like a big deal for some of you. You'll have to accept it, face up to it, and put it behind you. Please help me. Past is something you cannot change. He doesn't deserve to be hurt by this. I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. Look at your first kiss after divorce as a new beginning, a new chapter. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Psychology and the Mystery of the "Poisoned" Schoolgirls. I knew you liked him/her.
The straight guys get into it, theres no doubt they even end up biting the LGBT guys. Scopes: Yes, the kids are the real victims. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. What isn't, is
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When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. I have to admire the guy for realizing that he was putting a marriage at risk, and backed away. You were drunk and you kissed - One of those long young people type kisses too . Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." They need to hold people more accountable to commitment. Most people don't confess- You ask for advice of what you should do- you got the RIGHT advice. (Y)), Hey its really grtt to hear tht u really care n lot of emotion for ur hubbyv only come to kno abt our loyalty only when things like this happens.u kissed him thn u realised that u hv done mistake bcoz u really love ur hubby n dnt want to cheat him.but since commuting mistakes is a part of human nature n being human it happened but determined urself for not to continue or commit such mistake is the real proof of being loyal. SO if you shouldn't, then A) you should be able to tell him, and B) if he's the type to hit the roof over a kiss, he's a wee bit paranoid for his own good, and it wouldn't be *your* fault. It happened two days ago. A certain someone might read it. I get the whole 'not wanting to hurt him' thing but, to some people at least, a kiss is very much cheating and so the SO deserves to know what happened right? This thread has expired - why not start your own? You lied to me for 2 years? Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? I don't see any good coming from me confessing, only hurt and upset and doubt, and think my time would be better spent working on my relationship, and working through the issues that are putting so much pressure on us at the moment. Oh, I see. Kissing a man, I've just got into over the past couple years. i asked him how he'd feel if i went and made out with another man in front of him. You're the worst! Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. I'm disgusted with myself to think I would do that after just the tiniest bit of attention and flattery. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. Thus it's what I *DID DO* - back in September when at an Indian restaurant with friends (I mentioned it on this forum as apropos to someone's thread) and some bloke tried to come onto me. We were not drunk. in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. Which probably makes you wonder why I came here in the first place. I came home and we resolved it and ever since everything has been fine. One way to get over the guilt would be to prove to yourself that it will never happen again. My thread is called Hurt and Confused. female
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know. "I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person'"
That tells you that even if you think you are not showing any signs of being attracted to someone, peoples S/Os have a since of whats going on!